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Doty provides an observant and critical analysis of the long-term destructive influences compromising can have on morality and effectiveness. All in all, this book will be good for your ethical behavior and your managerial performance.
— Max H. Bazerman, Jesse Isidor Straus Professor of Business Administration,
Harvard Business School
Twin Arts of Apology and Compromise

CompromiseTrap-Effective Apology Books

 

Last month I had the good fortune to partner on a joint talk with John Kador, author of Effective Apology, to explore how compromise and apology might be linked.

What I learned is that the ability to apologize when an apology is due is a healthy compromise. It means giving up the need to be right, to reinforce some fantasy image of who we are, because we value our relationships more than our egos. It requires owning up to our blind spots, weaknesses, and bad habits, but brings us back in touch with reality and frees us from the compromise trap.

 
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You can stay true to yourself…

...but you need to do more than “just say No”.

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Healthy compromise is necessary for accomplishing any meaningful goal with other people. But when your job presses you to betray your word, your principles, or other important commitments, it becomes profoundly unhealthy and deeply stressful. And it can happen even while working for an organization or leader you otherwise respect and admire.

Elizabeth Doty offers a new approach: redefining the game. When you feel pressured to play by rules that undermine your integrity, Doty shows how you can tap into six personal foundations that will allow you to stay true to your deepest values and aspirations. Through more than fifty vivid firsthand accounts of compromise and courage in business, she provides guidance for anyone at any organizational level who wants to act with greater clarity, strength, and purpose, as well as for senior leaders striving to lead organizations that allow people to remain true to themselves.The Compromise Trap details a strategy that enables you to act as a positive force—for yourself and whatever you define as the greater good—no matter how difficult the circumstances.

Who Will Benefit

  • Professionals who care about values
  • Leaders building high-integrity organizations
  • Women executives, social entrepreneurs, and corporate revolutionaries
  • Coaches, consultants and trainers
  • Partners, spouses, parents and friends supporting a loved one’s growth

Table of Contents

Foreword by Art Kleiner (editor-in-chief of strategy + business magazine)
Introduction: Seeing with Peripheral Vision
Chapter 1. The Compromise Trap
Chapter 2. A Devil’s Bargain by Degrees
Chapter 3. Ten Misconceptions about Compromise at Work
Chapter 4. How do I Redefine the Game?
Chapter 5. Reconnect to Your Strengths
Chapter 6. See the Larger Field
Chapter 7. Define a Worthy Enough Win
Chapter 8. Find Your Real Team
Chapter 9. Make Positive Plays
Chapter 10. Keep Your Own Score
Chapter 11. Thriving at Work
Chapter 12. It’s Bigger Than a Game